Ch-check it out. I’ve got 30-something existing topics written on, and I try to update it at least every other day.
I’m making a big official post about it because I’ve been getting a lot of complaints from MRAs who think I don’t take male circumcision seriously.
I am absolutely 100% okay with men fighting for their right to bodily autonomy and taking issue with the practice of male circumcision. I’m totally cool with it. It doesn’t affect me, and it’s not an issue I have a stake in because I do not have a penis. I’ve known men who liked the fact that they were circumcised, and I’ve known men who dislike it. I assume cisgendered men know more about what it’s like to have a penis than I do, so I don’t want to try to make this issue “mine” because I certainly do not appreciate it when men try to control MY bodily autonomy and reproduction rights.
But WHY OH WHY do so many intactivists seem to overlap with people who hate and ridicule feminists? Seriously, why? Feminism has nothing to do with anything preventing you from advocating for the illegalization of male circumcision.
I really don’t understand why MRAs and feminists bump heads on this so often. At least, I don’t understand why MRAs DECIDE to bump heads with feminists on this issue, since it doesn’t really have anything to do with us. A lot of MRAs seem to throw male circumcision in our faces like it’s somehow evidence of female privilege, which it isn’t.
Female circumcision is not even really a “circumcision” procedure. It is the removal or mutilation of the entire clitoris (and sometimes additionally the sewing together of the labia), whereas male circumcision is the removal of skin. Male circumcision grew out of tradition but stayed prevalent for hygiene reasons. While it is possible for men to remain clean and infection-free even with an uncircumcised penis, it is easier with a circumcised one. That’s not to exonerate the practice of male circumcision, but that’s the reason it’s still around. Additionally, the extra mucous membranes under the foreskin DO make those with intact foreskins more susceptible to STIs (a lot like how ciswomen are generally more vulnerable to STI transmission because of our biological vulnerability from more exposed mucous membranes). While this may not be enough to excuse nonconsensual body mutilation, my bigger point is that male circumcision is practiced for males’ added protection, whereas the intent behind female genital mutilation was never for protection or anything in favor of female well-being.
I’m extraordinarily resentful of people who compare male circumcision to female circumcision. Comparing a perhaps outdated hygiene practice to the malicious and senseless violence of female genital mutilation is wrong, and to use this as “evidence of female privilege” is unbearably sad. It is not our “privilege” that we do not have to undergo this procedure, because the reason for its existence in the first place was misogynistic - in some cultures, our sexual pleasure is a sin and our “purity” held to unreasonably high standards. This procedure comes with life-long complications for childbirth, intercourse, and even urination. Male circumcision came into practice to protect you from disease, and while some men may lose sensitivity or even suffer urination complications from a botched circumcision, the procedure was never malicious or sexist in nature.
Additionally, the procedures just aren’t physically comparable and really have no business BOTH being called “circumcision.” It’d be like if ciswomen were also forced to have their butt prodded at during our yearly checkup because cismen have to have prostate exams. The fact that we don’t have to go through THAT either is not a “privilege.”
We feminists would not take as much issue with MRAs if you did not so disrespectfully compare the removal of your foreskin to the damage or removal of OUR ENTIRE CLITORIS. If male circumcision were the practice of removing the entire head of the penis on the grounds that pleasure should be reserved for us, they’d be comparable. But it isn’t, and they aren’t.
You are free to go about your opposition to male circumcision. Don’t bring feminism into it, or at least don’t blame feminism for somehow preventing you from going about your intactivism. Don’t bring female genital mutilation into it. Don’t bring the notion of “female privilege” into it. If you do, you’re terrible.
Please get that straight.
Dear Tumblr user theonlyfin:
We are not going to suppress our survival instincts just because you are offended that girls are afraid to walk alone at night.
If you have a problem with our fear, take it up with your fellow men. After all, women are not responsible for the statistic that 1 in 6 women will be the victim of an attempted or completed rape. We’d have no need to be wary if this were not the case. There are certainly many good men out there, but it is the bad men who are ruining it for you, not women.
Stop accusing women, and feminists in particular, of hating men just because we resent that we have been forced to go about life more cautiously than you have to.
Call Me Cis-Male:
The adventure of a car full of MRAs on a quest to find the perfect white fedora.
I actually laughed out loud.
astrobro asked: "What if I kept belittling you, and you asked me to stop". That's the thing, though. Man does not go out of his way to belittle you, you've just deluded yourself into believing that. The fact is, men and women have advantages and disadvantages to their respective gender. It's just currently righteous to stand up for feminism, and that's why you all do it. Women are not repressed in any way, there are bigger things to worry about in the world.
I love the fact that everyone who sends me things like this are guys. I’m sure you’re an expert on what it feels like to be a woman. You should write a book, even!
Man DOES go out of his way to belittle us. Not every man, certainly, but certainly more than women belittle men. Here’s how:
If women are not repressed in any way, why is it that OUR reproductive rights - what we can and cannot do with our bodies - are a political issue debated widely by men? If it’s a women’s issue, shouldn’t it be decided by women? Why was an all-male panel appointed recently to even discuss this? Why were we silenced?
If women are not repressed in any way, why are we constantly used as decoration and ornament in commercials, ads, music videos, and other types of media? Women are objectified and reduced all the time, whereas men are not - at least not nearly as frequently.
If women are not repressed, why is it that although women make up the predominant portion of college graduates, we are still severely under-represented in professional jobs? Statistically speaking, a woman with the same or better qualifications than a man still has a lower chance of being hired to do the same job, especially in higher-paying jobs.
If women are not repressed, why is it that 1 in 6 women will be the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime, whereas for a man the number is 1 in 33? These numbers account for rapes that occur in correctional institutions, and even though some would try to make prison rape a purely male issue, women are also raped in prison by other women using objects.
If women are not repressed, why is it that 97% of rapists walk free, and women who go to the police after an assault are asked what they were wearing, if they were drinking, and how promiscuous they are? “She was asking for it” is never an excuse to rape someone, because no. She WASN’T asking for it. Wearing a short skirt is not an invitation to rape, and yet this victim-blaming mentality is prevalent in society. Until the 50s, I believe, a woman could not even legally press charges against her husband if he raped her, because people believed that rape between husband and wife was a non-issue.
If women are not repressed, why is it that we bring these issues up all the time, numerous studies have been performed to prove the existence of these inequalities, and yet the predominant feedback we hear from men when we mention them is “You’re over-reacting; there is no inequality. You’re wrong.” Look at the facts, astrobro. YOU’RE wrong.
Hey guys! I have a new blog. It’s a rebuttal to “This Is Female Privilege” and I could use some help and support and good vibes and stuff. While there are plenty of things to love about being a woman, many of these are not “privileges,” and should not be confused with the rights and privileges of men.
Also, “This is Female Privilege” is a very clearly anti-feminist blog, having defended Tosh’s rape joke and reblogged text posts that ridicule feminist ideals.